The Makings of a Home

I changed my Facebook profile the other day. Under Work, it read “writer, speaker, piano and flute teacher.” Since having Keegan, for this stage in my life, I am no longer speaker and piano and flute teacher (except for one piano student). I deleted and retyped: writer, homemaker.

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“Homemaker” is a dreadfully old-fashioned term. The teenage me would slap the thirty-something me who saw fit to describe herself with this word. Traveler! Career-woman! teenage me exclaims. Musician! Bohemian!

Alas, I sit in suburb, listening to my son half-play, half-whine in his crib, fighting his nap. And I realize that he learned this from watching me (50 points for reference). I half-play, half-whine in crib (or house, for those of you unfamiliar with such hip terms), fighting my own life.

Homemaker? But I have no talent for interior design or organization or couponing (or desire to acquire said talents). I live in house where dust bunnies thrive (and indeed are named). Homemaker? I can’t even glue together two Popsicle sticks.

But, yes, the hippopotamus (another 50 points for reference). I long to make things beautiful and joyful and rejuvenating for husband and son. I long to make a place of truth and light and love, a place where people gather and laughter and music ring, where the sorrowful find comfort and the joyful find dance. I long to make a place that welcomes friend and stranger, that nurtures and encourages, that teaches and inspires, where inventions and artwork burst the seams of this house.

So I learn to embrace this term, homemaker, even if it means doing the dishes.

The Master’s Artist: A Sponge with a Long Swivel Handle and a Soap Dispenser

Oh, you’re in a real treat today. You get a backstage glimpse into the real inventor of the sponge with a long swivel handle and a soap dispenser in said handle.

Exciting stuff, folks.

As I contemplate fostering an environment of creativity and discovery, I consider how my parents nurtured the same in me: “Was there a secret in the wooden blocks? In Raggedy Ann and Andy’s Please and Thank You book? In dancing around the dining room table to “Arky Arky” by Kid’s Praise?”

Read A Sponge with a Long Swivel Handle and a Soap Dispenser.

And Singing "It's A Small World" 3,298 Times

Here’s the thing. I want to hate Disney–all the commercialization and the take-over-the-world-ization. (Seriously, just because it’s a Disney movie doesn’t mean it should be a Broadway musical. The world didn’t need Lion King on stage.)

But I can’t help myself. I loved it. I love what it does for families. So, in no particular order, here are my top 10 favorite things about Disney:

8. The bathrooms–you can’t sneeze without hitting one, which is great when there with your nine-year-old niece. Who am I kidding? It was great for the nine-year-old’s aunt and grandmother.

4. Getting to be a princess and a pirate in one day.

That’s my "arrgh, matey!" face. Scary?

7. Fireworks and parades–come rain or shine, let’s go! On with the show.

2. Imagination–it goes wild in a place like Disney. In one day, you can snack pastries from France, go into the future, travel on a safari, and fly with Peter Pan. Anything is possible.

10. Making my family nauseas on the teacups. Come on–who doesn’t love to get dizzy? If someone doesn’t vomit, if anyone’s walking in a straight line after the ride, I haven’t done my job well.

5. The Phillies paraphernalia–it was everywhere! Love it. Guess when you’re the reigning world champs, you go to Disney World.

9. Crowd control–Disney knows how to keep large amounts of people happy and moving. We didn’t have to wait in terrible lines (and kept moving even when they were long), and Disney provides misters (as in water spraying, not men) and plenty of air conditioned buildings. Good job, Walt!

3. Unity–you may have come in a mini-van, Harley, suped-up Cadillac, Pinto, Smart car, Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang or flying carpet. You may wear wife-beaters, Polo shirts, pants buckled around your knees, rings lining your ears, eyebrows and nose,  Princess dresses, emo, or fanny-pack. It doesn’t matter. You love Disney. It is a small world, after all, you know.

6. Touring eleven countries in less than two days. Beat that, Jules Verne!

And my number one, favorite thing about Disney . . .

1. Breaking out into song and dance in the middle of the street. 


(I should note that I wasn’t invited to join these singers, but hey, when you know the song, you know the song!) 

 

(Also note that I didn’t wear the same thing every day. It just so happens that all the photos I picked to share with you were taken on the same day.)

Psst–If you find this post interesting and think others might as well, would you mind taking a minute to stumble it? It would mean a lot to me.

Mentor Monday

Today I’m going to tell you about two very special people: my parents.
My
parents aren’t the type who would cause you to immediately conjur up
trendy social justice pictures. They’re more covert in their care for
the least of these.
They like to take care of people. Particularly people in the fringes of society.
Exhibit
one: a teenage boy showed up at a local homeless shelter. I don’t
remember how, although my parents could tell you. Filled with
Christ-like compassion, they took him into their home and treated him
like their own son. There were frustrations, of course–there always
are in these situations–but my parents loved him through it until it
was time for him to move on.
You know, I debated telling you the end
of that story. I’d like to tell you that he is now an upstanding member
of society, on his way to being a pastor or congressman or something of
the like. After all, these are "Mentor" Mondays. They’re supposed to
encourage you to follow the examples of these people in caring for the
hurt, and wouldn’t it be easier to care for the hurt if you knew,
I mean absolutely knew that your efforts wouldn’t be in vain? But life
isn’t always Hollywood. Sometimes we labor in what feels like futile
effort. I’ll tell you what I know: God works your efforts for good in
your life, and we don’t always know the end of the story. In this case,
though my parents fought the ish in this boy’s life, he returned to
some yuckiness. Today, his life doesn’t look pretty. But it’s not the
end of his life, now is it? We don’t know how God’ll use my parents
demonstration of love someday.
Okay, enough of that. Moving on.
Exhibit
two: a young, single, pregnant woman showed up at their church. This
woman–a girl, really–has little, but has a desire to know God. My
parents show her God every week. She doesn’t have a car, so my mom
picks her up for church, though it’s out of the way, and drives her to
other places. They’ve helped get her situated. They’ve welcomed this
woman’s family.
I could share other exhibits, about how their church
has reached out through the youth group to the outcast teenagers. My
parents have been there for that. About how they’re involved with the
local homeless shelter. About the hospital visits they’ve made time
after time after time. About the times they brought home someone to
share our Thanksgiving meal so that no one would be alone.
Caring
for the hurt, for the orphans and widows and homeless starts in your
own community. It often means setting aside your own preferences. It
often doesn’t have some big pay-off, for our reward is in heaven. It’s
often messy, bringing people into your life. Sometimes you won’t like
it.
Enough preaching now. I’m convicting myself.

Lost Love

He hadn’t spoken to me in eleven years.
We met in January seventeen
years ago. I don’t remember it being cold, but it must’ve been because
I wore my oversize coat. I was in eighth grade and patches of clubs and
honors littered the sleeves of my jacket. It was a week or so after
Christmas, and I was mourning the loss of a family member–a car
accident on Christmas day.
Dozens filled the room I walked into, but
he picked me out straight away. Before I knew it, he was on my
shoulder. He was no bigger than the palm of my hand.
It was a match.
He
purred all the way through his flea bath, through the massive hair
dryer that fluffed him, through the car ride to his new home. We named
him Oreo. I don’t know why, seeing as how he is all black, but Oreo
fit, and Oreo stuck.
Oreo was born on October 31st, the lady at the
shelter told us. A black cat born on Halloween. Throw in a broken
mirror and an open umbrella, and we’d be set for life.
When we got
home, we gave him the dish that belonged to Nonny before he died on
Christmas day. Before Nonny, it belonged to Buttons.
Oreo slept in
my bed–often under the covers. He sat on my lap when we watched TV,
but when I left for college over eleven years ago, Oreo couldn’t
forgive me.
He greeted me with hisses and a twitch of his tail. If I came too close, I walked away with scratches up and down my arms.
I
spent the last few days at my parents’ house, where Oreo lives. He
doesn’t leave their bedroom now. He’s grouchy and old and crotchedy.
He’s a curmudgeon. He and the dog don’t get along. In my parents’
bedroom seeing the new furniture layout, Oreo came out from under the
bed and meowed. Like I have so many times before, I held out my hand
for him to come sniff.
He did.
And then he stretched out in front of me, inviting me to scratch his belly.
He purred.
After over eleven years, Oreo and I reconciled.

Eggman

"I am the walrus," I said to my sister-in-law. My nephew chewed on his walrus toy.
"Huh?" Blank look.
I added, "Goo goo g’joob."
"Are you talking in a different language?" She turned to her husband. "She’s talking in code."
Husband looked at me ready to interpret. I repeated and was rewarded with another blank stare.
What has happened to this country’s music education where a reference to one of the greatest rock bands, a band that changed the face of popular music, that experimented, that was one of the few rock/pop/whatever bands that actually had good musicians, reaps confusion? I won’t even go into mispronunciations of Wagner and misappropriation of tunes calling a Rachmaninoff a Mozart piece (isn’t all classical music either Beethoven or Mozart?) or believing the cell phone company to have composed the Queen of the Night’s aria. A whole generation who had hamsters for mothers and fathers that smelt of elderberries.
By the way, this came out of a family reunion of sorts from this past weekend. Laughs, squabbles, stress, and fun. A typical family outing.
Now go away or I will taunt you a second time.

Bewitched, Bothered, and Bewildered

A month or so ago, I picked up an article entitled, “Can You Overshelter Your Kids?” Expecting an answer in the affirmative, I was surprised to read a resounding no. The author said of course you can’t based on God’s actions. She explained that the opposite of shelter is endanger or expose and since God never endangers or exposes us, we never can to our kids, therefore you can’t overshelter your kids, by golly, shelter, shelter, shelter!
Huh?
I have to wonder if she’s ever actually read the Bible. What would Job say? Did God allow Job in a difficult, might I even say exposed, position? How about Paul? Was Paul’s life ever endangered? Hebrews 11 and 12 anyone? My goodness, someone was even sawed in half for the faith! In fact, Jesus told us to expect these things.
I’m not saying you drop your kids of in the middle of gang central, kiss them goodbye, and say good luck! What I am saying is that sheltered surburbia with a side game of keep-away may not always be what God intends. Would you never let your kid ride a bike because he might fall off and hurt himself? Would you never allow your kids to participate in ministry because it might be dangerous? Of course, each person has a different role in the play. One may homeschool, another send to public, still another private school. That’s not really the question (although motivations for answering that question are related).
Some of you may say, Heather, you don’t even have kids. You have no idea what you are talking about. True, true. But I can think about these things, and I can attempt to work how an answer that reflects the Truth in this world. I want to live dangerously, meaning, I want to teach my kids, when I have them, to be lights in the world. I want to teach them to love their neighbor unconditionally, even when said neighbor takes advantage of them. I want to teach them to love the Lord their God in the midst of persecution. This type of education may require letting God expose them at times.
Of course, in all this education, I might have to learn it myself first!

Dy-No-Mite

My dad comes home from the hospital today. He and my mom will stay at our house for a bit, anywhere from a few days to a week. So some semblence of normal may possibly be restored. Then again, it may not. You never know with this crew!
So I’ve been disinfecting the house between flute and piano lessons today – no small task for our house. Not that we have a large house, but I’m not exactly the queen of clean. And I’m maneuvering around two dogs that hate each other. Well, one dog that wants to play and the other that hates.
I don’t know why I called this post dy-no-mite except that I’m at the end of all things sane.

Hospital Update

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I’m at the hospital now, and the wireless comes and goes. My dad is doing much better and should be out in a day or two. He and my mom will then stay at our house for a few days before traveling 3 1/2 hrs to the middle of nowhere to go home. It looks like this crisis has passed, although the underlying Crohns issue is still, um, an issue (creativity wanes these days). My mom is now sick from nights at the hospital, so she can’t be around my dad until she gets better because he has basically no immune system. Oy vey. Anyway, thanks again.

The Stork Laid Down His Burden

He rested. And then he laughed and laughed and laughed.
A few months ago, I learned that I had four uncles I didn’t know I had. Yeah, that was an interesting conversation.
Mom calls. “I talked to your uncle today.”
“Um, mom, he’s been dead for a few years.” I google asylums. “Did you have a séance?”
“No. A new uncle.”
Of course. Silly me.
“You have four new uncles.”
Except my grandparents are dead, so I know they didn’t have some sort of second honeymoon and pull and Abraham and Sarah.
“Children of my dad and his second wife.”
So background: my mom’s dad left when she was five (I believe). The last they heard of him was a birthday card he sent for her eleventh birthday. My mom is the youngest of four. Her dad left, remarried, moved to Florida (which they new from the postmark), and apparently had four boys (which they didn’t know until a few months ago). My mom’s biological father is now dead. When he died, the oldest of the four boys, Brent, in addition to raising the youngest, decided to figure out this mysterious background that his parents refused to talk about. Were they in the witness protection plan? Was the mafia after them?
He found us. A long, complicated hide-n-seek game.
My mom and dad instantly loved the new family. Two peas in a proverbial pod. My aunt decided to fly down this past weekend to Louisiana (Brent’s house) to meet them. My mom, hubby, and I surprised her and drove down. One of the brothers, Brian, drove up from New Orleans.
And we laughed and laughed and laughed. Mostly at me, but I’m okay with that. Hey, that’s how things normally go, and being the drama queen that I am, any attention is good attention.
Brent is a bi-vocational pastor. He and his wife, Dee, own a nursery. If you need any planting advice or just want to learn, hop on over to his blog. When it’s late, he breaks out into Beaudroux and Tibidoux (nice spelling) jokes—Cajun jokes told with a Mexican accent (they lived in Mexico for a while). And his nursery is beautiful.
Brian is a driver for NAPA (not the wine country, unfortunately). My favorite thing about Brian: everything reminds him of a song. Sounds like someone we know, doesn’t it?
Bobby and Steven are the two I haven’t met, yet.
It’s fun having family closer than Virginia and New Jersey now.